Hi Alane
I am also a DSPW, almost 38 years old (I haven't figured out how to get my skin type info into my profile yet), and have early stages of Rosacea. It sounds as if my symptoms are very similar to yours: I have little bumps (some, noticeable only by me) on my cheeks, slight redness on cheeks and nose; sensitivity to heat, and my cheeks get very red with exercise (I run outside so it happens when I run in very hot or cold weather, even though I am vigilant about protecting my skin with sunscreen when sunny and shea butter/ face masks when cold and windy).
So, about a year or two ago I complained to my derm about the texture of my skin, thinking it was from sun damage. He told me immediately that it was not sun damage but rosacea- very early stages. He reccommended that I get Photo Rejuvenation/Fotofacial treatments which would be perfect for the redness and bumpy texture and help with fine lines, and be good for long term control of the condition. I was really hesitant b/c of the high cost and my unfamiliarity with the procedure, plus thinking I was being super vain about the whole thing. I did a bunch of research and b/c I really trust my derm (has an excellent reputation and longstanding practice) I decided to do it, and boy was it worth it! Now I hardly wear makeup at all and feel great! I am not sure if you're even thinking about this kind of treatment but I wanted to at least mention it b/c it really made such an incredible difference in the way I feel about my face and how I look! ;D The treatment I had was the Elos (
http://www.syneron.com/skin.html. This was a combo of light/radio frequency; five intital treatments taking 1 1/2 to 2 hours each (not regular IPL therapy) I know there a lot of treatments (Dr B talks about some in her book; she also says somewhere in the book to go for photorejuvenation treatments ASAP if possible for lines) and I don't know so much which treatments are good for what, but I can say what this did for me:
Facial redness lessened alot, almost completely gone!! ; dark spots/freckles almost gone (skin is much more even toned); texture is phenomenal--so smooth I freaked out when I was done with just the first treatment-it knocked 10 years off the feel of my skin! ; and also I can tell the skin holds more moisture; I don' have to use so much lotion/oil on my face now. I still go for maintenance treatments every 6-9 months as needed, so far only once back in a year and a half (my derm says b/c I run/exercise I will continue to cause new capillaries to break and thus keep causing redness, so this is really a good preventative/maintenance treatment) I feel like I am doing something to keep my face from getting worse as I was concerned also about the rosacea as I get older...)
Also--make sure you have a good derm who you trust and feel comfortable with; esp. when it comes to them being able to make recommandations for (cosmetic and other) treatments. Like mine says, "Your face is your Rolls Royce, you need to take care of it".
About moisturizing-I just read 'The Book' a few weeks ago and until now had no idea that any of this skincare stuff actually worked! I have ordered all the stuff for my DSPW regimen but haven't gotten any of it yet; I got the MLE Cream--now I am wondering about the choice. I also ordered the La Roche Posay Facial water so will try Patrish's suggestion.. At the moment I am in the habit of using Apricot Kernel oil w/ evening primrose and borage seed oil on my face (sometimes mixed with soothing essential oils such as chamomile or lavender). At night I put the oil on my wet face after showering, tap it on and let it sit. Then again right before bed, wet my face again, more oil (be careful of sheets/cover with an ols tshirt or towel). The apricot kernel is a light oil and absorbs very quicly. It is a good moisturiser, can also add vitamin E capsules to it for an antioxidant. Sometimes I put moisturizer on first then the oil. I have some clogged pores on my nose; maybe the facial water will help with that...
Sorry such a long post!